How To Love Being Single
Being single has been the best years of my life so far!
In this post you will find:
Why I Love Being Single
The Benefits Of Being Single
How To Love Being Single
Two Books to Empower Self Love
Why I love Being Single
How could I write this post without getting a little deep and personal?
I have currently been single for around Four years, so I feel I’m qualified to have an opinion on this subject. 😜
Being Single has majorly boosted my Confidence and independence, and I feel Liberated!
It’s allowed me to really dive into who I am and learn so much about myself.
Whenever I had been in a relationship I always felt like a shell of myself, never really comfortable in who I was or in who I was dating, regardless of how long we’d been together.
Being Single has given me the time to be with myself and discover who I am, which is super important btw!
Because how are we supposed to find someone we love being around and are compatible with if we don’t even know who we are or what we like?
I love being Single because I feel a great sense of Freedom and Trust in myself.
Things I would otherwise never even consider doing if I were in a relationship, such as changing my own car tire, taking a holiday solo, or, prioritizing my schedule and, my feelings!
They all become the norm and fuel my self-belief and confidence.
It’s so easy to fall into the role of being a girlfriend, even in this day and age It’s so common to take on the “female role” in a relationship. For example, in a relationship, if you needed a mirror hung on the wall or the oil topped up in your car I bet most people would automatically ask their boyfriends (speaking of heterosexual couples) to do it for them.
It’s so easy to fall into that damsel in distress role and get comfortable in stepping back, which if that’s genuinely what you like then great but I feel we as women are way more capable than we believe.
Being single gives you the opportunity to discover your own power, your capabilities, and limits.
Benefits Of Being Single
Here’s a little break down of some of the best benefits of being single!
Freedom
No one to answer to or have to plan your day around.
You are free to spend your days as you wish, no guilt or hang ups on needing to see that specific person.
Self Empowerment
Getting used to being single and learning to love your own company and trusting in yourself is empowering!
You have the time to discover who you are and realise how capable and badass you are on your own.
Time To Prioritize
Your days no longer need to be planned based on someone else’s schedule, you can prioritize your own hobbies, family, and friends.
Learn the new language you’ve been wanting to learn, pick up a new skill, and take yourself on holiday!
No Drama
Let’s face it relationships rarely come without a side serving of drama and ain’t nobody got time for that..
Being single gives your nervous system a break, no stress, no worries just yourself to focus on and leave the drama behind.
Building Friendships
Being single allows for more time to find your tribe of people.
You have time to spend with new and forever friends, creating memories and enjoying life as it is.
How To Love Being Single
If you’re struggling to feel happy being single then this is for you.
First, I would ask what is it you feel unhappy with?
It’s perfectly fine to want to be loved, we’re all human but trust me when I say being single has so many benefits especially when it comes to finding a healthy relationship with the most important person you will ever have.. yourself.
Yes, I know that sounds straight out of a teen chick flick but it’s true!
Learning to love yourself will change your life and being single might come with loads of negative tags attached to it but rip them off, because you have two choices, either be single and miserable or take control and learn to love it.
Don’t just be single, choose to be single.
Choose yourself.
Learn to love being single.
Love your life, and when the time is right, the right people will cross your path.
Books To Empower Self Love
Here are Two of my Favourite Books when it comes to Self Love.
I truly believe Self Love is the Key to being happy being single.
Radical Self Love
This book has so much to offer it’s one I can read time and time again and take different things from it each time.
I love books that really get you engaged and call for you to make changes and do the work alongside reading, making sure you are getting full value from the teachings.
This is still a book i like to come back to for a pick me up in self love sometimes.
The Goddess Revolution
The perfect book for falling in love with yourself, appreciating where you are at and how far you’ve come.
Mel shares her story and journey to where she is now and guides you on learning to love and appreciate yourself.
I would love to know if you end up reading these books and what you take away from them so please do comeback and let me know.
Remember you truly are a gift to this world, you are complete, and you are enough. ❤️
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